You’ve probably heard the phrase before; “possession is nine-tenths of the law”.
This past week, though, those words have taken on a deeper meaning for me. I wasn’t in possession of any energy. Between the retrogrades, Schumann resonance spikes, full moons, new moons and just life itself, I’ve realized something important. My tank has been running on empty again.
Spirit wasn’t subtle about pointing this out, either. I know my own signs. I was out of energy in a big way and could no longer put this issue on the back burner. Spirit wants more rest and fun in my life. Not obligatory fun. Not “I’ll squeeze something in between appointments” fun. Just the kind of fun that lights up my soul and fills my energy up again.
That’s what I’ve been missing. I’ve been giving, showing up, and holding space for others but not in ways that fill me back up. The warning light on my inner dashboard isn’t just blinking, it’s flashing furiously again.
Spirit’s message has been loud and clear: Rest. Replenish. Recharge and protect your energy.
Spirit does what spirit does best and put a mirror in front of me to reflect. I was shown receipts in the form of examples. One person I speak to a lot eventually asked how I was, but it wasn’t a question. It was a statement at the 49-minute mark. Yes, I looked at my phone. As I opened my mouth to speak, I realized it was a filler statement as they took a breath and carried on never letting me answer.
I was compelled to reflect on other energy parasites that were draining me in one way or another. I became very aware of just how many people there were without realizing it.
I say this with love: energy parasites are real. Jeez, no wonder I am drained!
Then Spirit asked me one simple, confronting question: “Who has reached out just to ask how you are? Who checks in on you without a hidden agenda, without needing advice, venting, or unloading their problems?” I paused. I couldn’t come up with anyone.
That’s when I decided to take action. I formally called back my energy from everyone and everything. I became quiet. In just a few short days, it became evident how many people of late were suddenly reaching out. It was as if the bat-signal went out to everyone and they all converged at once. They all needed to be seen and heard. That is when I had to admit something uncomfortable to myself: I’d been over-giving yet again.
That silence became the clearest conversation I’ve had in a long time. A stark reminder of the importance of equal energy exchange.
It’s called balance without an apology. I continue to not answer calls unless I want to. I am busy taking care of my energy in my own life. Call it selfish if you want. I call it self-protection. I’m refilling my own cup.
It’s my responsibility to check my own tank. To honor my own energy. To lovingly say “no” when too many hands are out asking for more. It is also my job to be aware of those that take without reciprocity and to stop it.
This doesn’t come from resentment. It comes from awareness. I’m seeing clearly who takes without ever asking if I need something in return. So, I’ve decided to step behind the line of boundaries again that should not have become slack.
This is your reminder that it’s okay to say no. It’s okay to rest. It’s okay to not be someone’s emotional rescue angel. If you’re not in a space to give, you don’t have to explain why. Just don’t. If someone becomes angry with you, that in itself is the biggest example of someone who was leaching off of you.
I’m not making exceptions anymore. I’m not apologizing. I am simply choosing me. Honestly? I’m really okay with that.
